My mother and best friend are throwing me a 40th birthday party next summer. It is not a surprise; I am providing all the addresses for invitations and securing the facility. Is there any appropriate way to state on the invitation that a gift is not expected, but that they may make a "vacation donation" or something to that effect? I, too, would like to go on a nice vacation. I think it's safe to say that we would all like to go on a nice vacation. And after the year we've had, I think we deserve it! It is not appropriate to state on the invitation, "I don't expect gifts, but if you do want to give me a gift, I'd really like to go on a vacation to Bali.
You could ask your mother and best friend the nominal hosts of this event to set up a vacation donation fund and put the word out to your invited guests again, not on the invitation that your expectations are actually quite grand. Otherwise, the birthday girl should not personally troll for gifts.
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I am respectfully asking that you reconsider your answer to "Anguished Auntie," who suspected her niece's fiance might be gay. She wondered whether she should tell her niece what she suspected.
I have two close cases in my family of women who married men who turned out to be gay. My mom married a man who knew he was gay but felt the need to cover it up. His kids knew but did not tell her. At the breakup of the marriage there was violence involved.
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The other case was more like your Auntie's letter. They were a small-town couple who did not really understand about sexuality. After two children and a number of years of marriage, he figured out who he really was. He lost his job, they lost their house and both families were torn asunder.
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It would seem to me that some good counseling to explore the issue might be in order. At the least a really frank discussion might be a good idea. Being gay is really OK. However, trying to live a life that is incongruent with who you are does not work.
But he disappointed me with his emotional unavailability. He broke up with me via email on my 35 th birthday, which proved his immaturity and increased my fear of spinsterhood. I was single for years after that, and when my 40 th birthday rolled around, I was distraught.
Writing that sentence still fills me with painful anxiety. I could still date, even though children were probably off the table. I had to accept it and choose relationships for happiness, rather than for an engagement ring.
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